Wednesday, August 11, 2010

what matters more *contest closed*

This is sponsored content from BlogHer and Bayer One A Day Multivitamins.



With three active boys and a husband who is often gone on 24-48 hour shifts 2-3 times a week, there are many opportunities around here to get lost in the hustle and bustle of need to do, gotta do, wish I could do.

During any given week during this past school year we (big breath) had three scout meetings to attend, two basketball practices and two games, 3 afterschool activities (art, drama, and NEHS) and more. For them. For me, there was school and clinicals twice a week, church activities, and of course the regular house managing duties. I get a lot of help from Hubby, (when I ask, and when he's home) but for the most part, I am the driver, the shopper, the cleaner, the cook, the budgeter and more.

We all have busy lives. We all have to find that balance and learn to juggle, right? Find out what is most important, not be afraid to say 'no', and prioritize. I've been using Bayer's "What Matters to You" website (home of One A Day Women's Multivitamins) to plan my days and remember to keep the more important things at the top of my To Do list. Their "My Tree Matters" tool helps me manage the goals I have per week (or longer) while encouraging me to live a balanced and healthy life. I was able to break down my weeks into varying segments that I wanted to focus on: I chose creativity, relationships, and leisure, but I could have also chosen family, health, money, health, nutrition, and more.

This past year, certain things to me were critical for my personal well being and sanity. One was allowing myself a few minutes a day or hours a week to just sit and read for pleasure. Yes I was in school, and yes I had some pretty heavy subject matter. But there's something about just opening a book because you want to in order to escape Momhood and the constant pressures of Go Go GO. To just indulge in someone else's imaginary land and reboot, so to speak. Leisure time was paramount to me and my overall well-being.

Another thing I absolutely did not want to do without (and I think I only missed 2-3 times the whole year) was the opportunity to volunteer weekly at my children's school. Though technically not leisure time, (giving up a day of my week was a sacrifice!), there are many reasons I do this...1: I enjoy getting to know my kids' teachers. 2: I like them to know I'm an actively involved parent regarding their education. 3: I like to know what my kids are learning. 4: My kids love it. And 5: it's a great way to say thank you. Even though I'm doing it for them, I also do it for me. My children love it and I have fun with it, and it helps me slow down one day a week and better connect with my boys.

Having and acting on my priorities, including allowing for leisure time, made the busy busy year not so toxic. There were few (yes, I'll admit) meltdowns along the way, but finding a little bit of personal time to relax and a bit of a public way to give back helped me keep my world going, and helped me feel like I mattered to someone by being there for them.

For the $150 BlogHer giveaway, tell me what matters to you more? how do you prioritize your personal time? Yes, we all have our gotta do's and our need to do's, but what makes your list of just plain old wanna do's? Share your opinion here in the comments.

Contest runs 8/11/10 through 9/11/10.

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239 comments:

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yadgirl said...

Sleep matters a lot to me. If I don't get enough of it, I'm worthless in every other area of my life.

Jayfr said...

What matters most is family, but to keep on top of the family situation, I enjoy a bit of relaxation when I can, usually late at night, by listening to some music or an audiobook while resting.

Anonymous said...

I have to see that cleaning house isn't high on my list of priorities. The kids and my husband come first and I always manage to slip in a few minute for me (surfing, taking a bubble bath, etc.)
But it all gets done eventually.
digicat {AT} sbcglobal {DOT} net

Betty C said...

My mother taught me at an early age that being with family was more important than cleaning the house. She gave me an example of my aunt who wouldn't go anywhere with her husband unless the housework was finished first. He passed away early in their marriage and it really affected the way my mom looked at things.

Bakersdozen said...

My family matters to me more than I can say. I try to show that in all that I do. vidomich(at)yahoo(dot)com

Kimberley said...

My daughter and my little miracle man mean the absolute most to me. They keep me going, they make life worth living when everything else says it isn't, they are my life.

Many thanks!

Susan said...

I am thankful for my family, especially for my daughter we are so blessed to have her, they are much more important to me thank a clean house, it is true.

Susan s, suelee1998 @ gmail.com

jolene said...

I workout 6 days a week.. IT is pretty much how I keep my sanity.. The rest of my day is usually consumed with cleaning, cooking and taking care of my husband and kids.. and honestly, I wouldnt have it any other way:)

mail4rosey said...

Our family nurturing, spiritual nurturing, and meeting responsibilities on time matter most to me. Having a healthy balance of love and healthy discipline (i.e., do your homework before you call your friends; make your bed before you walk out the door; get your practice time in before you get online, etc.) are paramount for happy and harmonious living in our home. We also take time out throughout the day to let each other know we're happy to be together.

msurosey@yahoo.com

crankyyanky1 said...

Your family is the most important priority no one is going to remember you when your gone for how clean your house was, but you will be remembered for making time for your children and your friends. I try to be there for all my kids things at school even though their older now and they don't say it when I walk into school I see their faces light up and that's all the thanks I need I am there for my kids and family and because of that I think I have a much better relationship with my children!

Aisling said...

Family is most important, but if I don't schedule some "me" time, I'm not effective with them. It's important to spend some time with girlfriends, exercising and just reading a book for pleasure sometimes.

ewalsh40 said...

Well if we're talking about what I love to do, and don't have to, it's always a toss up between reading and web surfing.

ewalsh40(at)gmail(dot)com

Lisa Garner said...

What matters to me most is that my children are able to never doubt for one moment that I love them with all my heart!
lisalmg25 at gmail dot com

susan1215 said...

Spending time with my husband and children matters to me most and it doesn't even have to cost anything, just playing board game together is fun.

s2s2 at comcast dot net

Heather S said...

What matters most to me is my daughter. My husband doesn't ask for a clean house, so my daughter and husband mean the most to me. If I could do some workbooks with my daughter instead of doing dishes I will do that any day. If I can watch a movie with hubby instead of vacuuming I will.

hmahan_0529 @yahoo dot com

Anonymous said...

My family always comes first, but I also know that I need to make money and time for work as that is how we take care of our family. I'm just thankful that we're all healthy, happy, and have a roof over our heads :)

shevilkenevil1 at aol dot com

Patrice said...

My family, friends and volunteering take priority in my life. So what if my house isn't spotless and chores are put off for a while? I'll get around to everything in due time.

carolpie said...

My wanna do is to be with my family-husband, kids, and grandbabies as much as I can. We lost our 21 year old daughter and it totally changes your life forever. NOTHING matters to me like my family. We all are very close-even my SIL who was married to my deceased daughter ended up marrying our other daughter. That is how strong the grief was and how close we all are. Only our other daughter could understand our SIL's grief and he hers.


spencer1953 at gmail dot com.

Heather Wallace said...

I have to say that making time for my family is the most important thing in the world. They are important for my mental and emotional stability. I couldn't be happy without them in my life.

hkropog [at] yahoo [dot] com

Unknown said...

My family is what matters most to me. I do make time for myself so that I can be more fully their's when we are all together. trinitygsd at yahoo dto com

Anonymous said...

Family comes first and everyone is happy. Work is a distant second As long as I have a roof over my head, food on the table etc. I am happy

Sarah Z said...

My daughter has finally gotten into a sport and I am willing to give up my time to ensure she can go to pratice and games. I like being able to read and play with my plants!
Thanks - Sarah Z
believedreamcourage (at) gmail.com

guettel78 said...

A stable, happy, safe household means the most to me - I always have that as a top priority in my mind before I turn to my other wants and needs, because only when the family is intact and on the right track can I relax and feel good about taking care of the rest!

gkaufmanss@yahoo.com

Deb S. said...

What matters to me more than anything is knowing each day how blessed I am with my family. I always loved my husband and boys but after my husband had a serious accident my life was put into perspective. Every minute counts.

ShesAnAngel said...

Every day is a constant battle to try and remember what's really important and not get caught up in cleaning or doing stupid chores! What really matters to me is being active in raising my children and also doing something good for the planet :D

justine417@comcast.net

Deb K said...

My family is the most important thing to me~as even though we are small we get together all the time!

Valancia said...

My little family, my health and well being of my family and my love and need to Save the Whales are what matters to me. Each of these things are of utmost importance to me as I try to live and pray one day at a time.

07violet said...

spending time with my loved ones is what I want to do the most

alterna7 at hotmail dot com

sharonjo said...

I am blessed to have my family and friends and to have recently graduated from the SALLT program to be a lay minister in the Lutheran Church! Thanks! senekers@comcast.net

Anonymous said...

What matters to me more is having healthy children. As long as the house is passable ... I'm happy!

Jinxy and Me said...

There just is not enough time in the day to do EVERYTHING, so I do the must-haves to keep life running (like work) and then concentrate on family time with some fun things thrown in!

Liz said...

My Husband and My daughter are full priority ... I would do anything for them. If they needed an body part I would gladly give it to either of them.
I love my husband and my daughter they are my world and what matters most.

Sand said...

I do a lot of volunteer work for female and animal organizations.

EclecticZebra said...

Being that I was recently diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis and still coping with not functioning normally, having 2 small children,husband,house that needs cleaning,going to school online, a dog 3 cats, turtle and parakeet WHEW! ha I have been forced to try and take time to myself so I can try to maintain sanity as well as not get sicker.

Anne said...

My kids matter most to me, and I make them a higher priority than anything else, especially cleaning.
ajolly1456 at gmail dot com

Mare/TommyGirl said...

I just turned 35 at the end of August and I had this sorta epiphany. It probably sounds selfish, but I've decided that what matters most to me at the moment is me, making my self healthier and happier. And that way I can be the best person for my family and friends.

Angela Livingston said...

My husband and my kids are what matter to me most. My day is structured around whatever they are doing.

allysona said...

my family meets the most to me...i work full time and 3 kids working partime,playing sports and going to schoo;...and of cousrsse my hubby. making sure food is prepared for all and cleaning

Laura aka Lolo said...

What matters to me most is my family! I looove my family!! Spending each and every day grateful to God that I get a new day. Being diagnosed with stage 4 cancer changes how important relationships are! How you want to love more, hug more, listen more, and definitely laugh more. What matters to me most is that I live my life with joy.

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